Tuesday, July 22, 2008

How to help my child excel in Primary School Leaving Examination (PSLE)?

It is natural for parents to be concerned about their children’s PSLE performance. Anxiety among parents is starting to build up, especially as the big date is coming close. This week, we are dedicating some time to answer some questions that worried parents may have on how to help your child prepare and do well in his/her PSLE. This is not an exhaustive list. If you have more questions, please feel free to send it to us at info@handsonlearning.com.sg.

Question: My boy's grades are not ideal and he is not worried. What should I do?

The first thing a concerned parent should do is to reflect why the boy is not worried. There may be several reasons for this. He might have put in his best effort, but is still not able to reap the results you expected. Thus, he is given up and allowing nature to take its course. He may also not be motivated in studying as he had not have an ideal school in mind to work towards. Alternatively, it may be that he has low expectations and is satisfied with his current results, despite your high expectations.

It is important to jointly address this issue with your child and try to motivate him, by helping identifying the underlying factors. One good framework to leverage is the POWER framework.

1) Plan – Discuss with him what he wants to be in the future and understand the motivations behind that goal. Once you understand his ambitions and aspirations, you can help him plan how to work towards the goal. For instance, if he wants to be a musician, you can help him identify the steps he needs to work on to get there.

2) Organise – Work together with your child to identify how you can achieve the goals, including finding the right secondary schools, researching their areas of excellences, affiliation. For instance, you can accompany him to the open house of School of the Arts and talk to teachers to understand the programme better.

3) Work on it – Help your child identify the entry requirements and guide your child to develop a plan of attack to achieve the results that can get him into his first choice school, School of the Arts. Seek help in subjects where he is weaker.

4) Encourage – It is important to provide the right support your child to work towards his goals, but do not take over the whole process. You should provide opportunities for him to achieve the goal and not force him to attend programmes you think will be helpful. For instance, let him know what enrichment classes are available to strengthen his portfolio, encourage him to select one that he likes and could do well in.

5) Review – You should continuously review his progress and praise him when he scores well in his tests or does well in his enrichment class. Whenever you give feedback, remember to be constructive. When you receive the news of his successful entry, congratulate him and ask him to think of the next steps and what he will do in the year ahead. If the application is not successful, do not reprimand your child. Instead work with him to identify alternatives.

Throughout the discussion, you can also help him to discover his strengths/talents and how these can help him in his studies now and in his life in the future. It is important to note that your role as a parent is critical to help your child do well. There are 3 tips that we would like to share with you:

1) Instead of exerting too much pressure on the child, generate enthusiasm. You can stress that PSLE is a mean (not an end) towards his secondary education. Discuss the "fun" and new challenges that he will be experiencing when he's in secondary school. In this way, the child will look forward to rather than dislike PSLE

2) Be realistic about your child's abilities when selecting secondary schools. When your child genuinely believes that he has a chance to meet the goal, he will be more willing to try. Motivation requires optimism and optimistic children are confident that if they work long and hard, and apply enough creativity, they will, in fact, succeed.

3) Reluctant learners are unwilling to learn for a reason. They often have been wounded by comments from friends or adults about their perceived abilities. Isolate the reasons behind your child's reluctance and work on them with positive encouragement and reinforcements.

Next week, we will talk about how to select the right pre-school for your child. Stay tune!

By Ms Brenda Yeow and Ms Angeline Tong

Saturday, July 5, 2008

How to help your child with homework?

Parents play a critical role in educating their children. The pressure cooker society today is making it more difficult for parents to increase their involvement in their children’s school career. One good way, however, for parents to be more involved in your child’s education is through homework. Research has shown that ongoing parental involvement in homework can provide a solid foundation for children’s learning and attitudes. When you are involved and maintain high expectations for your child's performance in school, regularly do homework related activities with their children, and display a positive attitude toward homework, your child will benefit. He/she will feel confident, enjoy and learn more from school; and understand the usefulness and importance of education and school.

Admittedly, helping your child with homework isn’t the easiest tasks. Many parents are dumbfounded when their children seek help on their school assignments, especially when they have forgotten concepts thought to them years ago. Others find it difficult to motivate their children and bring them away from video games, online chats or television programmes to concentrate on their homework assignments. We have also met overly anxious parents who sent their children to so many enrichment activities that the children hardly have any energy left to complete the homework. Of course, there is always the perennial complaint from parents that there is too much or too little homework. The list is never ending and we hope that through this week’s sharing, we can provide you with some practical tips, on how you can help motivate your child complete his/her homework assignments successfully and develop the right learning habits for life. Parents with children in primary and secondary school should find these tips most relevant.

Before we discuss ways on how you can help your child, we thought it is important to remind parents how homework benefits students - Homework encourages self-discipline and responsibility by providing them an opportunity to manage time and meet deadlines, teaches children to work independently, reinforces what children have learnt in class, and helps develop good habits and the right attitudes.

Showing that you think Education and Homework are Important

Children look up to their parents and it is very important that they know their parents’ care about their learning and think that homework is important. To help your child do well in school, you should first show that you think education and homework are critical. To do that, you could:

1) Begin early in the academic year. Start sharing early in the year inspirational/ success stories of immediate family members/extended family members/close friends, especially people your child is very close to or heroes he/she is familiar with, on how education and good learning habits (through homework) has helped their success.
2) Get child to set targets/goals; plan what to do to achieve the goals; get him/her to own the achievable goals (such as improving Mathematics scores by 10 marks).
3) Set aside a regular time for your child to do his/her homework. For a younger child, you can always work with him/her to develop a schedule. Remember to set aside time for his/her hobbies and for fun. For secondary school students, they are able to develop a proper schedule, but it is important that you ensure it is a good one.
4) Remove distractions during homework time – turn off the TV and other sources of distractions, such as loud music, computer games etc.
5) Show your child that the skills he/she is learning is relevant to things he/she will do when she grows up. For example, if you want your child to be motivated learning Chinese, let him/her see you reading Chinese newspapers, books or speaking in Mandarin with other people. You can also share with them what you do at work and how Chinese has helped you (perhaps negotiating a deal with a client from Taiwan or Mainland China). To motivate your child to learn maths, you can always show him/her how maths is useful for you (such as calculating payments during groceries).
6) Besides showing your interests, you can also make homework interesting. You can make time to bring your child to libraries, science centre or museums to do research required for his/her assignment (or just for enjoyment). Draw links back to his/her school work, but also the broader environment – to create a better understanding and awareness of his/her surroundings.

Helping them with their homework, not do their homework

It is important to note that while it is critical for parents to show interest in their children’s homework, they should only give support and not take over the assignments. Remember, the homework is for the children, not for the parents! By doing your child’s work, you are depriving him/her the opportunity to understand, process and use information, and making your child more dependent on you. The following tips could help you provide the right level of guidance:

1) You can encourage good study habits by helping your child manage their time to complete assignments. For example, you can help him/her plan the steps required to complete a big research project. During holidays, you can also select a project that your child is interested in and guide him/her on the steps needed to complete the project. This would not only allow you to provide guidance to help your child break assignments into smaller tasks, it will also be a good time to build and strengthen bonds.
2) You can also talk about the assignments with your child. Make sure that he/she understands the requirements of the assignments, where he/she might have problems and whether you could provide additional resources to help in completing the assignment.
3) It is also important to watch for frustration – it might be time to give him/her a break and continue to encourage him/her that the task can be done.
4) It is important to give praise. Your child needs encouragement from people whose opinions he/she value the most – you and your spouse. Little words of commendation can go a long way in motivating your child to do better!
5) Your child also needs to know if he/she has not done the best. It is, however, to keep all feedback constructive. Instead of telling your child that he/she is stupid for solving a maths problem wrongly, try using statements like “Perhaps you might want to try solving the problem in another way.” Then give praise when he/she has corrected the mistake and explain where he/she gone wrong in the first place.

Keeping a constant eye on homework assignments

As an enlightened and involved parent, you should also constantly monitor your child’s homework assignments. With your vigilance over his/her progress, it is more likely that your child can successfully complete these assignments. The degree of monitoring depends on your child’s age, independence and how well he/she does at school. In general, you should make sure that:

1) You are always available. Primary school children, especially, like parents to be around, so that someone they trust could answer any questions they may have on any assignments.
2) You look over completed assignments to ensure they are completed. Read the feedback that teachers gave after the assignment is returned to see how well your child has done and where improvements is required. No matter how well or badly he/she has done, you should always be generous with time, love, praises and encouragement. It is also important to praise good behavior, such as completing the homework on time, completing them correctly and neat handwriting.
3) However, if your child continues to have problems finishing his/her assignments, you should talk to your child to find out what the issue could be. Give your child extra time and help if he/she has difficulties understanding the homework assignment.
4) While all distractions should be switched off during the pre-agreed homework time, parents should also monitor the number of hours their children spent on TV and computer games. This could be an underlying reason why homework is not completed on time.

Parents should also not hesitate to contact teachers, if they wish to clarify something with regards to the homework assignment or when their children are not able to complete the homework frequently. Homework is not only a good way for parents to be involved in their children’s education; it is also a common platform for teachers, parents and families to improve students’ learning.

By Ms Brenda Yeow and Ms Angeline Tong

Monday, June 23, 2008

How to Help Your Child in Maths?

Like many of us when we are young, many children find mathematics a very daunting and boring subject. It does not have to be so. As a parent, you can provide your child with a head start now by giving him the right foundation and environment for learning maths. And it is not difficult to start. As our children go about exploring and discovering things around them, they are exposed to the world of mathematics and they can learn these important concepts beyond the classroom.

As we already know, children are very curious - it is important for parents to make it a point to continue to encourage this inquisitiveness. You can introduce your child to mathematical concepts at an early age and involve these ideas in daily activities that have element of maths. With the right exposure, he will not be fearful of maths, but in fact be intrigued by how relevant maths is to his world.

Here are some practical tips on what you can do to introduce maths to him in everyday activities:

1) When shopping for groceries, you can always ask him how much to pay for the items in a basket. You can further encourage him to pay for the groceries and count how much change he should get back (encourages mental calculation). Another variation is to cut newspaper/magazine coupons and let your child calculate how much money you have saved on this week’s groceries through these coupons. Using mental maths can make children become stronger in everyday maths skills and you should provide opportunities and encouragement for your child to practice mental calculation.

2) When cooking, you can ask him to help you measure the right amount of solid (e.g., 2 teaspoons of sugar, 3 cup of flour) or liquid (e.g., 20 ml of syrup, 2 half cups of milk). You can also ask him how much beans or sugar several different cups could hold. This will enable him to understand the concept of volume/capacity.

3) As you are preparing to cook, you can ask your child to guess weights of different food that you will be cooking by holding the objects and then ask him weigh them on a scale. You can aid his understanding by explaining to him the metric system, kilograms and grams and also train his estimation skills by asking him how much six apples would weigh. You can further ask him to calculate how much the apples would cost, if 100 grams of apple cost $0.50.

4) To teach your child about time, you can ask him to keep track of the time spent on each daily activity – meals, sleep, watching TV, school and games. Guide him to complete a pie chart to breakdown the amount of time spent on each daily activity.

5) When buying shoes or clothes for family members, you can ask him to compare the sizes and rank them from the smallest to the biggest. You can also ask him to compare the length, weight and height of family members to reinforce the concepts.

6) During dessert time, get your child to divide the cake into equal portions for everyone at home. This will help him learn about fraction.

7) When organising and packing your house, you can always ask him to placing things into groups of equal sizes (multiplication and division).

8) When wrapping a present, you can ask him about how much wrapping paper is needed to completely cover the box (volume/area)

9) Your child can also learn about angles by looking at sloping objects, such as comparing two roofs or two slides. For the slides, you can even ask him to go on both slides and discuss the differences and effects of different slopes and angles

10) You can help your child learn about circumference & radius by comparing cylinders of different radii. Compare the circumference of the openings of the two cylinders and see how fast water can fill them up by pouring the water into them at the same speed. You can also draw circles of different sizes on the floor, walk around each one and count the steps needed to cover the whole circumference (note: remember to mark the starting point and steps must be taken with toes touching the heel of the foot in front). To illustrate where the centre of the circle is, draw a straight line from one side of the circumference to the opposite side. Repeat with a few more lines and mark the point where all the lines meet - this is the centre of the circle. You can measure the length from this centre to any point on the circumference and explain that this is the radius and illustrate how you can use the radius to draw a circle.

11) There are several ways of teaching maths on the go. You can always encourage your child to calculate how far his school by giving him the average speed you are moving and the time it takes for him to reach school. Another fun game you can play while riding the bus or car is to ask him to call out a license plate number. You can then “challenge” him to get to a number using the numbers on the license plate. For instance, how can you get 5 from “9841”? An answer could be “9 – 8 + 4 ÷ 1” or “4 x 1 + 9 – 8”.

Besides the practical tips above, there are several things that parents should remember to help your child do well in maths. Firstly, while some mathematical problems have only one solution or can only be solved with one formula, there may be many ways of getting the right answer. Most problems can be solved in different ways and learning maths is not only about finding the right answer, but also about the process of solving the problem and applying what the child have learnt to new problems.

While it is important to get the right answer, having the wrong answer is part of learning and parents should not admonish their children. Instead, you should look at the wrong answer to discover what your child may not understand. The wrong answer will point you in the right direction and to ask the right questions on where the mistakes were made. Is it a careless mistake or a case of genuinely failing to understand and apply the right concepts? It is highly likely when parents were students themselves, they were expected to solve many problems using the same formula or method, so as to complete them rapidly. However, in today’s learning environment and indeed in the world of maths, the focus is less on quantity of formulas memorized, but instead on understanding the concepts and applying thinking skills to arrive at an answer.

Most importantly, positive attitudes about math are important for your child's aptitude as a young mathematician. You can help your child by letting them know how he can apply maths in his everyday live, encourage him that everyone can learn maths through simple daily exercises and tips we shared above and how maths can help people in their jobs (relating how cashiers need to use maths to return the change, how architects use maths to design buildings and bridges and how pilots use maths to calculate how long it takes for the plane to arrive at the destination). It is also important to explain to your child why you are doing the activities with him to reinforce the learning.

Mathematics is everywhere, and you do not have to be a mathematician to teach your child maths. There is ample opportunities everyday to help your child live and experience mathematical concepts. Why not start today?

Written by Ms Brenda Yeow and Ms Angeline Tong

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Synopisis of Parents' Seminar - EQ:IQ - How You Can Help Your Child Excel

We have received many enquires from parents with regards to our recent parents’ seminar - “EQ/IQ: How You Can Help Your Child Excel”. Thus, for this week’s entry, instead of our usual response to your questions, we’ll be summarizing the key points from the seminar to benefit parents who were not able to attend the talk. Our Q&A session will resume next week with the question from one parent: “How Can I Help My Child Be Interested in Mathematics?”

Synopsis of Seminar – “EQ:IQ - How You Can Help Your Child Excel”
8th June 2008
National Museum of Singapore

Prior to the start of the seminar, the Speaker, Ms Brenda Yeow (PBM), reiterated the importance of selecting the right yardsticks for a child. She advised parents to be realistic about their children’s abilities. Setting too high a benchmark for the child will only serve to de-motivate him/her. Instead, setting achievable targets will allow for mini triumphs and act as a source of motivation for the child to strive for excellence.

Moving on, Ms Yeow shared in details, 7 ways parents can help their children excel. They are:

1) Inculcating the right attitude
2) Nurturing his self-confidence
3) Understanding his learning styles and interests
4) Creating a conducive and emotionally supportive environment at home
5) Encouraging and empowering him to set goals
6) Carrying out activities that build strong bonds
7) Enforcing discipline

The talk ended with Ms Yeow sharing a poem with the parents – “What All Children Want Their Parents To Know” by Diana & Julia Loomans. Due to numerous requests after the seminar, we have included the poem below (see below).

Before the seminar came to a close, there was a short Q&A session. I’ll like to highlight one question from the floor. Throughout the seminar, Ms Yeow has stressed the importance of parents spending quality time with their children. One parent asked how they could spend quality time with each child if they have many children. Ms Yeow replied by asking parents to think about having both quality as well as “special” time. Quality time can be spent together as a family, while special time is only reserved for one child at a time. Each child will be allocated a “special time” with mum or dad where they get to do or talk about things. All siblings will have their own special time to avoid perception of unfairness that could result in unhappiness.

We’ll like to take this opportunity to thank the Speaker, Ms Yeow, the National Museum of Singapore as well as all who have helped to make this seminar a success.

The next parent seminar will be in December 2008. More details to follow.


What All Children Want Their Parents To Know
by Diana & Julia Loomans

Teach me to love and care for myself
Through your positive example.
I will learn much more from what you do
Than from anything you could ever say.

Notice me often,
And take joy in my existence,
So that I grow up to feel special
And know that I am loved.

Listen to me
With an open ear and a loving heart,
So that I learn to understand my feelings
And trust that my needs will be heard.

Play with me often.
Let down your guard and be more carefree.
The memories will last long,
And our connection even longer

Focus on what I’m doing right,
And tell me when you appreciate me,
So that I learn to feel worthy
And motivated to do even more.

Tell me more about life,
Your hopes, dreams and successes,
So that I come to know you as a person
And can call you my friend,
As well as my parent.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

EQ:IQ - How to Help Your Child Excel

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At HandsonLearning Strategies LLP, we believe in creating conducive student-centred learning environments where students are constantly challenged to exercise and stretch their minds. At the core of our programmes, we encourage the natural intellectual curiosity that is innate in each child to question the obvious, think the deepest, and create the impossibleTM. Our specially designed activities and programmes will help students in their meaning making, in their thought process to think deeper and more critically about the topic at hand and eventually creating their personal understanding and new ideas based on this newfound knowledge. It is only through such in-depth involvement and empowerment that knowledge becomes internalised and learning becomes truly enjoyable. We strive to engage students by providing the support and conditions in which they learn best.

While quality and complementary learning outside the classroom is critical, this is only one part of the equation. Equally important is the experience and the quality of the classroom instruction and what parents can do to motivate, enhance and help your child excel, not only in school, but also in life. The objective of this blog is to provide practical and helpful tips for parents to provide a developmentally-grounded platform that can hopefully help your child reach his/her maximum learning potential. We want to share our knowhow and experience, so that as parents, you will be able to be actively involved in educating your child in a well-rounded manner, making him/her successful, not only in academics, but more importantly in other areas of development.

As part of the launch of our blog, our honorary advisor and veteran educator, Ms. Brenda Yeow (PBM), will be conducting a seminar with the same name at the National Museum of Singapore on 7th June 2008. Thanks to your overwhelming responses, the seminar has already been fully booked. However, if you have any questions or queries, please feel free to email us at info@handsonlearning.com.sg and one of our experts will get back to you. To benefit all readers, the response will be posted online at our blog (but the case will be disguised to protect your identity). We are sincerely looking forward to our conversations.

Talk to you next week!

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